Every year I post a year-end assessment here on my blog, highlighting the important life moments in the year that was. This year, it’s going to be different. I decided to list down friends, family and even acquaintances who made the biggest impact in my life in 2012. Different publications may have their own list of people who “made the year what it was;” but at the end of the day, in life, whether they may be celebrities, heroes, or ordinary folks, its the different people who influenced and moved us that really matter in our lives.
This post is dedicated to those people who made a difference in my life this year. My little way of saying thank you for all they’ve done, whether they know it or not.
1. My bestfriend France Castillo-Kanapi
She probably doesn’t know this, but she said something to me not too long ago that I will remember for the rest of my life. We were out drinking with our friend Tin and we were discussing her inability to feel things and be sweet to other people. She doesn’t know how to make lambing and kept on saying that she can survive being alone. She said she doesn’t need anyone (and she means anyone) to be by her side because she is strong enough to handle things on her own. Tin then acted like a shrink and asked her what made her that way. I pretty much know the story of her life and I know that she doesn’t have a bad childhood. And then she said something that totally surprised me: “Isa lang yung hindi ko makakalimutan na pinakamalungkot na part ng childhood ko, yun yung nag-away kami ni Katz and we cried on the phone for hours.” It made me smile because I didn’t know that I made such an impact on her. I mean, I know we were friends for over 15 years but I always thought I didn’t matter that much to anybody back in grade school. The fight that we had may be “away-bata,” but it was so memorable because as young as 4th grade, friendship is really a huge deal to me. And I was touched because the declaration came from a person who just admitted that she doesn’t know how be emotional and touch people’s hearts. Little did she know that she did mine that day, big time.
2. My boss Mark Bantigue
I met Mark when I was desperately looking for a part-time job online last August. What made him part of this list is because he served as my inspiration to act on my career goals. His career optimism and passion for giving back to the community is something I totally admire. The first time I met him, I felt like I was seeing the epitome of whom I could become if I pursued my dreams. His views are center-progressive and slightly liberal just like mine; add to the fact that he’s into social media / dotcom business — something that I’ve long been dreaming to be a part of! How I wish I still work for him, I feel like I could learn a lot from what he does.
3. My friend Jed Mojica
My good friend Jed flew to Canada for good early this year and he’s on my top 10 people because he made me see sense about making decisions. Last year, I asked him why he agreed to move to Canada. I asked because one, he doesn’t really need to (his family is pretty well-off naman). Two, at his age, most guys prefer to stay here in Manila because of friends or special someone. He answered matter-of-factly, “Ayoko sana umalis, but I want to give Canada a chance. Kasi dito ano ba career ko? Call center, yun na yun. If it doesn’t work I can always go back naman.” Jed is a goofy person na walang alam gawin kundi ang mang-asar at makipagkulitan, but his stand about giving something a chance even though he’s gonna be apart from his gf who he loves so much is something I totally admire. He’s willing to shake the status quo just to see what else is out there for him. I wish I’m as bold as him.
4. My friend Allan Chua
I’ve known Allan since forever and while he’s considered a childhood friend, we only get to hang-out few times a year because of your conflicting work schedule. I won’t detail what happened that made him part of this list (because he might kill me, lol), but this year I saw how matured he is in handling conflicts. He used to be the guy who has this bahala-na-I-don’t-care system — but now, for the first time he showed his vulnerability and fear. It surprised me because Allan is NEVER sad, at least whenever we hang out. So when I saw it for the first time, it kinda restored my faith in men, haha. No seriously, it made me smile because my guy friends may be crazy, but they are a perfect gentleman and they know how to protect the people they care about.
5. My friend Karla Rafols
I am not really very close to Karla but we do hang out every once in a while and I always enjoy being with her. She stole the 5th spot because this year I got to know a little more about her personal life and I found it to be one of the most humbling stories told to me by anyone I know. Karla used to intimidate me, though I don’t know why. But then she approaches you and cracks a joke and then suddenly, tension’s gone. She may not know this, but she is one of my inspirations on how to deal with all the stress life has to offer. Despite having all the family dramas (who doesn’t have one?), she is hands-down one of the most responsible (and funniest) people I know. And she’s only 21!
6. My cyberfriend Shey Garcia
I’ve never really had a cyberfriend. I never had a textmate, a chatbuddy or someone I just regularly talk to that I’ve never met in person. I met Shey this year when I joined a short-term online gig and we were batchmates. She’s so bubbly and friendly and we immediately hit it off. After our training, Shey got assigned to a task that she hates doing and I got assigned to something I like. Few weeks later, I quit because of work conflict while she stayed. Her complains about her job took weeks until one day, she surprised me when she told me that she is now training other people to do the same job! I was like “How can you excel at something you HATED doing in the first place?” She goes, “I need this job so eventually I accepted it and found a way to make it enjoyable.” Her remark reminded me of several people I know who continue to complain about their work but won’t do anything about it. Shey is right, if you hate your job, you either quit or suck it up and find a way to make it fun for you. Sino ba mahihirapan, ikaw rin naman.
7. My former colleague Von Rosales
I got close to Von back when he was dating one of my friends at work and even though they didn’t work out, our friendship remained. Von made an impact on me this year because he reminded me of myself 3 years ago. He left his job that he is so comfortable doing because he just isn’t happy anymore with the environment. 3 years ago I did the same thing, but back then I thought of it as escaping and even accepted that I am a quitter. What happened to Von made me realize that quitting doesn’t always mean that you don’t have the courage to stick it out when things get tough. It’s just that, sometimes — you realize that there’s nothing in it for you anymore. Does your boss help you grow? Are the rest of your colleagues happy and satisfied? I learned that just as they evaluate you in an annual review, it is also good to analyze the company you work for and its management. And if they don’t measure up? Leave. (Thankfully, I am very happy where I am!)
8. My sister Kim Antonio
She’s the baby in the family for the longest time, and this year she’s taking a huge leap in her life. There are actually a lot of things I admire about my sister. She’s sweet, super masipag in school, freakin organized (her room is always spot on!) and generous. Now that she’s going through a new journey in her life, she reunited our family like I have never seen before. I am not very vocal about how I feel especially when it comes to family, so I hope through this blog she realizes how much I love her. My siblings are the best blessings in life God has ever given me, and I will stand by them through anything.
9. My soulmate Patrick Cabas
I don’t normally put boyfriends here on my blog because I don’t like to backtrack years from now and see ex-boyfriends in here. Also, I feel that it’s “understood” that a significant other is a major force in one’s life. But I have to include Pat because I want to share to everyone how much in awe I am of his good-heartedness. Pat is probably the most selfless person I know. He spoils me like no other, he cares about his family in a huge way, and he gives to people without expecting anything in return. 2012 is undoubtedly one of my best in a long time and a huge chunk of the reason is him. I am so thankful to God to have found a lover, a brother, and a bestfriend in him. He is my all-in-one who continues to amaze me. I honestly wish more people would be like him, as kind and sweet and caring.
10. My mom Milagros Antonio
And finally, my mom of course. 2012 is the year I realized that when mothers say “hay naku, pagtanda mo, you will remember ‘my mom said this, I should’ve listened’” it is really true. I was home alone for a few weeks because they stayed in my sister’s house and I seriously couldn’t function well without my mom around the house! I had this OMG-I-don’t-think-I’m-ready-to-be-away-with-my-mom moment. I used to boast about myself being independent, then she’s gone for two weeks and BAM! I am lost in wilderness. Hindi ko pala kaya. Sometimes, it’s the little things like that that makes us realize how much a person means to us. I don’t think there will EVER come a time that I won’t need my mom. She’s a superwoman and I look up to her, big time. My parents may not be perfect but I will never get tired of saying that who I am as a person now, I owe it to them, for raising me up the way they did. It has always been my mission in life to make them proud, not of what I have accomplished, but of who I’ve become as person. Sana kahit paano, proud sila sakin..
WHAT ABOUT YOU, WHO ARE YOUR TOP 10 PEOPLE THIS YEAR?
Go and make your list, let them know how much they made an impact on your life.
MERRY CHRISTMAS EVERYONE! KEEP SPREADIN LOVE.